1. I think it
is fair to say that I have observed all five dysfunctions on multiple levels
within the different teams I have been a part of. The most predominant one that
sticks out to me is fear of conflict. I have seen leadership become virtually
ineffective because of a person’s fear of confronting problems head on. When
this happens, a message is sent to the team that relays a definite unawareness
within leadership and a lack of urgency to see the team succeed. In my opinion,
a leader must be willing to take care of conflict efficiently, proving that the
welfare of the team and the purpose of their activity is more important than
trying to please every individual need. When there is a fear of conflict, the
tension within the team is heavily felt which ultimately affects the trust of
each member. A specific example in my life was a leader in my youth group who
spent more energy trying to befriend everyone instead of challenging the youth
and sending a positive message by dealing appropriately with conflict from
students or parents. This caused people to feel as though the leader was a push
over and many people lost their trust in the individual.
2. As a leader of a team, I feel as though I am most likely
to “help” create an absence of trust. Because I am very focused on challenging
and motivating people, I may come across as invulnerable at times. Although
people who are closest to me understand how vulnerable and honest I am, those
who are on the outside may think that I am unsympathetic because I focus on the
team reaching the goal. Many times I see the need to be that leader who will
unapologetically push people to the next level because I believe in them so
much. An issue can come up if people do not see my loyalty and desire to walk
with them in accomplishing their goals. Another dysfunction that could be
created could be a lack of commitment. Because I am involved in many different
things with different teams, I try to prioritize my responsibilities with
wisdom. Although I never want to let somebody down by not being there for my
team, the potential for this to happen is likely when I am involved with other
teams.
3. In order to counteract these possible tendencies to create
or contribute to the dysfunctions I mention, I need to be intentional with the
time I spend with my team or group in regards to time and in regards to
relationship. A strategic plan could be to set aside time in which I can sit
down with individuals in my team and have heart to heart with them, showing my
appreciation for them and allowing an open door for honest and healthy
communication. This way everyone can see a side of me that may be hidden by my
strong desire to push forward and achieve new goals. When analyzing my
commitment levels, I should make a schedule that I share with my teams so they
are aware of what is going on. I could also be proactive in my communication
with my teams so that no one is left in the dark or questioning my commitment
level to the team.
I think you are right - fear of conflict is very common in a lot of groups! Actually, in a lot of families, work teams, friendships, etc. It is interesting that conflict is so hard to do well. You have outlined some great strategies to build trust with others and compensate for not demonstrating as much vulnerability to the group as a whole. Great thoughts !
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